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Sunday, April 22, 2007

MY subconscious mind

The issues on your subconscious mind are most affecting your:

Finances

Your finances involve everything having to do with money: your bank account balance, your debts, and your investments. Believe it or not, all of your financial hopes and fears impact your subconscious mind. Perhaps your conscious mind is aware that something is troubling you with regard to your finances or maybe you just have a vague sense that things don't feel quite right.

However tuned in you are to your feelings about your finances, you most likely have deeper issues that affect how you are subconsciously viewing your circumstances. Some issues are isolated to one realm of life, but generally an issue affects several areas at once, and to varying degrees.

Your subconscious mind could be preoccupied with your financial life because of a wide variety of issues you aren't aware of. The following are some pretty common ones that people have around finances. Do any resonate with you?

Worrying that you aren't doing a good enough job with your finances. You might feel like you don't understand how to manage your money, whether you're balancing a checkbook or learning how to invest.
Worrying that you're not doing your best. You may feel like you have more debt than you should or wish you had more savings or investments to show for all of your hard work.
Worrying that an employer, investment broker, or business partner will betray you. You might feel distrusting, especially if you've experienced difficulties in your past.
Worrying that you'll be rejected. When unchecked, this common fear can make you overly self-protective, which can make it difficult to relax in your job and rest assured that your work will be justly rewarded.
Wishing you didn't make things so complicated. You might feel that your approach to finances is overly structured, and subconsciously you might wish you could live with more flexibility and simplicity.

Financial Realm
You scored 90 on the financial scale. Your finances involve everything having to do with money: your bank account balance, your debts, and your investments. Believe it or not, many of your financial hopes and fears can impact your subconscious mind.

Aside from money being necessary to take care of yourself, it has also always been assigned a certain status in our lives, and this can be stressful. Take Jake, for instance. He had a good job that had brought home a big paycheck for many years, though he was thousands of dollars in debt, and he had little savings to speak of. He always made excuses for why the state of his finances was so bad: He lived in an expensive city, he was still paying off student loans, and he was still just getting off the ground in his job. But when even his friends who made less money than he started talking about buying homes, he started realizing that he was in terrible financial shape. What was really holding him back if it wasn't the amount of money he was bringing home? He started doing freewriting, not just about his finances, but about where he was in life in general. After some practice, he discovered that he actually had a deep fear that he wasn't living up to his potential. This seemed to impact many aspects of his life, including his finances. By making his subconscious fear conscious, he was able to set more concrete goals, including a budget.

Friendship Realm
You scored 58 on the friendship scale. Your friendships are the platonic relationships you have with people of your choosing. Healthy friendships offer us love and support outside of that which we get from family, romantic partnerships, and our sexual partners.

Your test results indicate that your friendships are draining your subconscious energy. You may feel dissatisfied with your current circle of friends, perhaps because of the composition or because of differing interests. Or maybe you're in a fight with one of your closer friends. It could be that you are simply longing for more fulfilling connections throughout your social life. Whatever the exact circumstances, your subconscious has picked up on some trouble in your friendship realm.

We are social beings and so we typically find it important to nurture and maintain friendships, but sometimes that's easier said than done. For instance, Catrina had just moved to a new city for work, and she didn't know anyone in town. She'd thought she'd be able to meet new people easily since there seemed to be so many her age in her office. But when no one reached out to her during her first week on the job, she started to pull herself inward. She told herself she was focusing on her job, which was demanding and new. But at night, Catrina found that she had terrible nightmares about strangers calling her names and chasing her down the street. The dreams got increasingly distressful until she finally decided to try some dream analysis techniques. Catrina eventually realized that she was experiencing an immobilizing fear of rejection. She could begin to see the pattern so clearly: The more afraid she became, the more closed off to people she became; the more closed off she became, the more her co-workers avoided her. Finally, she had to face her fears by inviting her co-workers out to lunch and starting to make herself more available. It was scary at first, but over time she started to make some friends, and a lot of her fears dissipated.

Love Realm
You scored 46 on the love life scale. Your love life revolves around your romantic partners. Whether you have a committed partnership, you're casually dating, or you're single without prospects, your love life concerns your romantic hopes and needs.

Your relatively low score indicates that your love life isn't taking up a lot of your subconscious energy. People who get a high score in this area are often longing for a jumpstart, whether that means a new sweetheart or some quality time with their current partner. They may be experiencing some kind of changes and these can be emotionally draining. For whatever reason, some aspect of their love lives feels dissatisfying, whereas for you, things seem to be satisfactory.

It's no wonder that most of the songs on the radio are about love — it's a complex, yet marvelous thing we are always trying to understand better. Take Beth, for example: She worked incredibly long hours, and blamed her nonexistent love life on this. While her friends offered to set her up, she always made the excuse that she didn't have time. The interesting thing was that Beth's performance at work was starting to slip. Even her boss suggested she take a bit of time off. Beth couldn't figure out what was happening, because she was actually very happy with her job, even though she could see from time to time that she might be taking her commitment to it a bit too far. What she didn't know was that her subconscious mind was actually worrying over her love life, specifically around her fears of betrayal. Her last relationship had ended with a nasty breakup that involved infidelity, and ever since Beth had immersed herself in her career to avoid facing her feelings about that betrayal. Though this issue affected other areas of Beth's life, she was particularly worried that she'd again be betrayed by a romantic partner. This fear was causing Beth to feel distracted at work, leading to mistakes that she'd never made in the past. By identifying that it was in fact her subconscious issues around betrayal that were taking up so much of her mental space, she found she was able to focus on and face up to this issue. Eventually, she found that she was able to work fewer hours and still excel at her job. She used her extra time to start pursuing a more fulfilling love life.

Family Realm...........................46
Sex Realm................................42
Work Realm.............................42
Personal Growth Realm............34
Health Realm.............................16

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